To say I knew what to say to that commenter, would be to lie to you. I was shocked and speechless. How can someone conceive such thoughts in his heart?
No victim of rape whether male or female is the cause of his/her predicament. The only exception is when the rapist is mentally derailed.
Don't tell me that because a lady was skimpily dressed, your hormones began to rage uncontrollably, and so you raped her. That simply means you have objectified women.
Yes! Women have been objectified in our society. How else can you relate to the fact that a young man wearing just a pair of boxers stays in the company of adult females and leaves there unharmed while a lady is raped severally because "her skimpy dress turned the brothers violently on". While I am not a fan of undersized clothes, I strongly believe that men who rape women because of their dressing are highly possessed. That a woman comes out naked doesn't give you any reason to sexually assault her.
Another case is where a lady visits a male friend and ends up getting raped by the fellow (and his friends in some cases). Someone on here will tell me that the lady was wrong to visit the rapist(s). Guys visit ladies everyday and come out unharmed. Why can't it be other way? Societal orientation!!! It sucks big time!
The society has told our men over and over that they are beasts who should be enslaved by their eyes and should not have the value called 'self control'. (For Christians, It is a fruit of the Spirit).
Many guys take all sort of drugs in preparation for the visit of their female friends because they believe it must end in sex. Little wonder few girls have normal male friends. I really pity the orientation the guys in my generation have.
Let me share a personal experience. I visited a 'friend' (I can't call him that anymore) sometimes ago at his place. In the course of our friendly discussion, this guy suddenly turned to a beast and was going to rape me but for luck sake. I was indeed very lucky to come out of his place that day . Now before you say the dude must have been immature or an illiterate, let me burst your bubble. He is a 29year old Medical doctor. Can you believe that? I can tag him to this post if I get bribed reasonably.
My friends will say he was suffering from accumulated 'konji' or he probably took some form of Viagra in preparation for action (action that never came). Those I might agree to (lol).
I shared the experience with some friends and the majority were of the opinion that I was at fault. I shouldn't have visited him. Poor orientation once again !!! Till date, I refuse to see any wrong on my part and on the part of any lady who gets raped while visiting a male friend, after all, there are cases where a guy visits a lady and ends up raping her in her own apartment. (See the movie 'For coloured girls' by Tyler Perry).
Worst case scenario is where a child, a little child gets raped by a foolish 'brother' (pronounced brodaa) or uncle and she is blamed for leading the rapist on. OMG!!! How exactly can a child lead an adult on? Probably by her flowered dresses, packed up hair, childish laughter or maybe by the sound of her learning the alphabets. Aaaaaahhhhhh!!!
A rapist is a rapist. He doesn't need to be led on to execute his full rapist potentials.
Many women and girls have been raped and many get raped everyday by family, friends, boyfriends and their husbands. Many are afraid to speak up because they feel they will be blamed for their plight.
This piece is emotional and it is for every girl, every woman out there who has been raped or who is currently been raped and is afraid to speak up because of the fear of what the society will say. Forget what the society is going to say. It wasn't your fault and right now it is not your fault.
It's your dress. Wear it. Let the beast in him rage.
Friend, No one can blame you for visiting a friend.
Dear child, be innocent as you already are and let his hormones surge beyond his control. It is his problem.
Let the orientation change.
Stop the objectification of women.
Let not her features make you an animal.
See women as humans and not sex tools.
Leave that young child alone. She is a child.
Rapists should be castrated without anaesthesia
#Istandwithgirls
#Istandwithboys
#Istandwithwomen
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P. S. My message box is open today to every girl and woman who has ever been a victim or who is a victim of a rape situation. Feel free to inbox me.
Let's talk. Let's find a way out.
You are not the problem!
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