My ladies, please hear me.
Your life doesn't end at graduating, getting married and having babies. We can do more. Our male counterparts graduate, strive to develop themselves before they begin to think about getting married. Marriage is a good; a great thing in fact, but it shouldn't be our only focus and end as ladies.
You talk to a graduating female about her plans and she goes "After graduation, I want to get married, have two or three kids and other things may follow after then". What happens to you? What happens to making yourself relevant before becoming someone's liability?
Is marriage the end of your life? See your life is beyond getting married and having children. You need to begin to think about what you can do for yourself, your family and the society.
There are enough kids out there already. Before you add one more, think about what you have done for yourself as a woman and for your society. Those business in your head, those passions you have, those big dreams you have, start living them. Start thinking about how to make them a reality.
All this struggle just to impress a man and get him to wife you is the height of myopia. This is probably the major reason we are regarded as weak individuals by men.
We need to sit up and live first. Graduate and get useful, babe. Marriage isn't a short term business. It is a lifetime affair. Those kids you are in a haste to have aren't running away. Once you have them, they are going to be your kids for a very very long time.
Nobody is chasing you from your father's house. If someone chases you, get your own apartment, mbok!
Get useful. Start thinking. Start living.
Flower ko.. Vegetable ni. Try harder.
P.S. If you feel, age isn't on your side, you can get married and continue living. The whole point is, do not stop striving because you want to be 'wifed' or because you have been 'wifed' or even because you have become a mum. There are lots of opportunities out there. Do not be limited.
#JayTeeSays
Inspired by Aunty Uju Okorie
Your life doesn't end at graduating, getting married and having babies. We can do more. Our male counterparts graduate, strive to develop themselves before they begin to think about getting married. Marriage is a good; a great thing in fact, but it shouldn't be our only focus and end as ladies.
You talk to a graduating female about her plans and she goes "After graduation, I want to get married, have two or three kids and other things may follow after then". What happens to you? What happens to making yourself relevant before becoming someone's liability?
Is marriage the end of your life? See your life is beyond getting married and having children. You need to begin to think about what you can do for yourself, your family and the society.
There are enough kids out there already. Before you add one more, think about what you have done for yourself as a woman and for your society. Those business in your head, those passions you have, those big dreams you have, start living them. Start thinking about how to make them a reality.
All this struggle just to impress a man and get him to wife you is the height of myopia. This is probably the major reason we are regarded as weak individuals by men.
We need to sit up and live first. Graduate and get useful, babe. Marriage isn't a short term business. It is a lifetime affair. Those kids you are in a haste to have aren't running away. Once you have them, they are going to be your kids for a very very long time.
Nobody is chasing you from your father's house. If someone chases you, get your own apartment, mbok!
Get useful. Start thinking. Start living.
Flower ko.. Vegetable ni. Try harder.
P.S. If you feel, age isn't on your side, you can get married and continue living. The whole point is, do not stop striving because you want to be 'wifed' or because you have been 'wifed' or even because you have become a mum. There are lots of opportunities out there. Do not be limited.
#JayTeeSays
Inspired by Aunty Uju Okorie
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